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4 ways single moms are thriving


By Samantha Gregory, author of Rich Single Momma

{This post is part of the Moms Who Work series.}

Too often we hear about single moms who are having nervous breakdowns, exploiting their situation or children, and behaving badly. The media has a way of blowing things out of proportion and highlighting the worst cases. The truth is more single moms are thriving than those who aren’t.
I want to share four ways I and numerous other single moms are thriving and embracing life.

1. We are embracing our individuality rather than be stuffed into a pre-defined mold. We are snatching off society’s negative labels and customizing pretty ones of our own.
Being a carbon copy of other single mothers is rather boring so I embrace my unique personality, skill set, and talents to redefine what it means to be a solo mother.

2. We are pursuing more/better education to lift ourselves up out of the lower class. It may be okay to start there but it’s not okay to remain there.
I decided to return to college 10 years and two children later. It was tough but my drive to make a better life for myself and my kids made every challenge worth it. That focus made it possible for me to graduate with honors and go on to work for a well-known government agency.

3. We are seeking well-rounded life experiences individually and with our children. Broadening our horizons through art, travel, film, and music is more attractive than rotting way in front of a television. Being narrow-minded is not an option.
Just this year I got memberships to the science and art museums. The kids and I love watching classic and the latest film then we talk about the themes or just the really funny parts. We have a high level of music appreciation beyond the latest popular tunes and rap music. It’s not uncommon to hear classical, jazz, and inspirational music coming from our speakers.

4. We are starting our own businesses to stretch our resources rather than suffer the fate of financial destitution. We refuse to settle for handouts and government assistance. If starting a business is not our thing, we make a few extra dollars with our hobbies.
I started my first business when my daughter was two years old. Since that time I’ve done freelance resume, technical, and copy writing to make extra money.

Being a single parent is not all bad and, case by case, you will find single moms who do a really good job and others who struggle terribly. Whether they are never married, divorced, or widowed moms, they have so much to offer the world. The point is they have very real choices and the ability to thrive no matter what the circumstances are.
Bio: Samantha Gregory is a single mom blogger over at Stop by and pick up a copy of the Single Mom Success and Survival Kit to manage the journey and learn how to make extra cash too. Follow her on Twitter @richsinglemomma too!

For further reading in this series:

Dear mommy-friends, are you a single mom? What are some of the ways you thrive as a mom? Are there any misconceptions that you feel people have about single moms that you’d like to address? What is the most difficult–and the best–thing about being a single mom? What can other moms do to best support you as a single parent? 

always glad to see women thriving,

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adriel booker | the mommyhood memos | 2010 
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  • Reply Casey Martinez 15 September 2010 at 3:13 pm

    I agree to all of the above! I'm actually trying to work on building up a photography side business so that I can bring in even more additional income to help us through these tighter times. We mamas are resourceful!!

  • Reply Greta 15 September 2010 at 3:22 pm

    Kudos to all the single parents out there. I honestly don't know how you do it.

  • Reply Kerry McCullough 16 September 2010 at 2:00 am

    Hey Adriel! I picked you for a blog award that was given to me today. To accept, just go to my blog and follow the steps to pass it on :)

  • Reply flyrish 16 September 2010 at 3:45 am

    I have so much respect for single moms. This is really inspiring post for partnered moms and single moms alike. Thank you for sharing, Samantha!

  • Reply Samantha 16 September 2010 at 2:16 pm

    Thanks for reading my guest post. I think it's important to see a more positive face on single motherhood. We are pretty much like other moms just without the partner.

  • Reply Samantha 16 September 2010 at 2:23 pm

    @Casey You can do the photography business! I'm cheering you on. I agree, we certainly are resourceful.

    @Greta It's all about taking one day at a time, even one minute at a time. And lots of deep breathing :-)

    @Flyrish You are very welcome. The respect is mutual. I know partnered moms have a lot to deal with too. It can be just as hard, especially with you have a partner that is not much help at times. But we all get through it.

  • Reply Angel 18 September 2010 at 4:04 am

    Wonderful post!! I am a single, working mother and completely agree with all of your points! I am going through school to make a better life for my daughter and I. It may take a little longer to get there than I initially anticipated but I refuse to let go of the dream of a better more stable life for us. Being a single parent can definitely be tough, but she is worth any obstacle and as much hard work as it takes to get us where we want to be. Thank you so much for sharing a better point of view than most people see of single mommies. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!!!

    Chasing Serenity

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