Gone Too Soon - Baby Loss and Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Service for Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Other Forms of Perinatal Loss

Remember & Hope

a message from your hosts

We know the deep pain of losing a baby. We also know there’s no blueprint for parents to know how to grieve or commemorate their baby’s life after miscarriage, stillbirth, or other forms of pregnancy and infant loss. It can be confusing and disorienting on top of the sorrow. We sometimes feel misunderstood or unsure if our grief is too much or not enough. Sometimes we hardly know what we feel other than heartbroken.


Our prayer is that this ecumenical remembrance service will provide you space to grieve with hope whenever you find yourself in need. Within the service is time to lament, time to reflect, time to honor your baby, time to receive comfort from Jesus, time to give thanks that we’re not alone, and—most importantly—time to hope.


Please set aside forty-five minutes (or a bit more if you want to sit in reflection through the beautiful music at both ends), and prepare to light a candle together midway through the service.


We hope that as you watch this service from the privacy of your own home or with a small group or other gathering, you will feel a sense of solidarity with other bereaved mothers, fathers, family members, and loved ones across the world. We see you. We honor you.


Along with our wonderful team of contributors from five different nations and two indigenous nations, it’s our joy to serve you in your loss. 


With Hope,
Adriel & Ryan Booker

Gadigal Land—Sydney, Australia 

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Adriel & Ryan Booker


Acknowledgement of Country

Aunty Sharon Minniecon


Opening Prayer

Quantrilla Ard


 Scripture Reading—Lam 3:19-24

“I remember my affliction.”

Tanya Riches


Validation of Grief

Dr. Mekel Harris


Scripture Reading—Ps 42:1-3a, 5, 7-8

“My soul longs for you.”

Rachel Lewis


Original Song—You Can’t Break Me

Casey Parnell


Scripture Reading— Ps 139:7-12

“Where can I go from your presence?”

Nicole Zasowski


Scripture Reading—Ps 118:1-7a

“His love endures forever.”

Ashlee Proffitt


Excerpt from Grace Like Scarlett

Adriel Booker


Prayer of Saint Francis before the Crucifix;

Candle Lighting & Moment of Reflection

Bronwyn Lea


Original Song—Come Be You

Becca & Chris De Souza


Prayer for Mothers

Peyton Lauderdale


Prayer for Fathers

Clint Watkins


Scripture Reading—Mark 10:14b-16

“Let the little children come.”

Kelly Streiff


Prayer for Couples Struggling to Conceive

Anna Kettle 


Scripture Reading—Is 43: 2, 3a, 4a

“I am with you.”

Sarah Phillpot 


Prayer for Families & Relationships

Maria Furlough 


Prayer for Moving Forward

Erica M. McAfee


Scripture Reading—Rom 8:35, 37-39

“Nothing can separate us from God’s love.”

Elise Takashima


Benediction & Closing

Adriel & Ryan Booker


Bronwyn Lea @bronleatweets


Quantrilla Ard @quannyboo


Chris De Souza @desouzamusic


Ashlee Proffitt @ashleeproffitt


Auntie Sharon Minniecon


Kelly Streiff @kelly.streiff


Elise Takashima @elisetaka


Sarah Philpott @sarahlphilpott


Erica M. McAfee @ericammcafee


Clint Watkins @clintdwatkins


Becca De Souza @becca.desouza


Anna Kettle @notesonlifebyannakettle


Dr Mekel Harris @drmekel


Rachel Lewis @rachel.thelewisnote


Casey Parnell @caseyparnell


Maria Furlough @mariafurlough


Tanya Riches @teeriches


Peyton Lauderdale @gathering_hope


Ryan Booker @ryanbooker74


Adriel Booker @adrielbooker



Meet your hosts:

Ryan and Adriel Booker

Ryan and Adriel Booker have been in vocational ministry for more than twenty years. Their passion is to help people discover the goodness of God, understand who they are in light of God’s care, and find their place in the world to help their communities flourish. Adriel is the author of Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and also the host of Our Scarlett Stories pregnancy loss community and Deep Dive peer support groups. She’s also the founder and host of Tethered—a gathering for those exploring the intersection of grief, faith, doubt, wholeness, and hope. They live in Sydney, Australia and have three children in their home and four in heaven. Find out more at www.adrielbooker.com.

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss by Adriel Booker

Maybe your grief is fresh and raw and you’re still reeling from the suffocating blow of a recent miscarriage. Or maybe you’ve long ago buried a secret grief, but something within is probing you to lean in closer to the pain once again. Grief is wild like the sea, but it doesn’t need to destroy us. We can’t conquer it, but we can navigate it, and we can find Jesus there too. Grace Like Scarlett will not explain away your pain, but it will help you see God’s invitation to be formed afresh in him. Grief can undo us, but it can also remake us. Let’s lean in together.

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© Adriel McIntosh Booker 2020

Please feel free to show the video replay of our remembrance service for any event as long as it remains free for attendees. If you would like to use it as part of a paid event, you must first seek permission.