Gone Too Soon - Baby Loss and Pregnancy Loss Remembrance Service for Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Other Forms of Perinatal Loss

Remember & hope

a message from your hosts

We know the deep pain of losing a baby. We also know there’s no blueprint for parents to know how to grieve or commemorate their baby’s life after miscarriage, stillbirth, or other forms of pregnancy and infant loss. It can be confusing and disorienting on top of the sorrow. We sometimes feel misunderstood or unsure if our grief is too much or not enough. Sometimes we hardly know what we feel other than heartbroken.

 

Our prayer is that this ecumenical remembrance service will provide you space to grieve with hope whenever you find yourself in need. Within the service is time to lament, time to reflect, time to honor your baby, time to receive comfort from Jesus, time to give thanks that we’re not alone, and—most importantly—time to hope.

 

Please set aside forty-five minutes (or a bit more if you want to sit in reflection through the beautiful music at both ends), and prepare to light a candle together midway through the service.

 

We hope that as you watch this service from the privacy of your own home or with a small group or other gathering, you will feel a sense of solidarity with other bereaved mothers, fathers, family members, and loved ones across the world. We see you. We honor you.

 

Along with our wonderful team of contributors from five different nations and two indigenous nations, it’s our joy to serve you in your loss. 

 

With Hope,
Adriel & Ryan Booker

Gadigal Land—Sydney, Australia 

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PROGRAM:

ORDER OF SERVICE

 

Welcome

Adriel & Ryan Booker

 

Acknowledgement of Country

Aunty Sharon Minniecon

 

Opening Prayer

Quantrilla Ard

 

 Scripture Reading—Lam 3:19-24

“I remember my affliction.”

Tanya Riches

 

Validation of Grief

Dr. Mekel Harris

 

Scripture Reading—Ps 42:1-3a, 5, 7-8

“My soul longs for you.”

Rachel Lewis

 

Original Song—You Can’t Break Me

Casey Parnell

 

Scripture Reading— Ps 139:7-12

“Where can I go from your presence?”

Nicole Zasowski

 

Scripture Reading—Ps 118:1-7a

“His love endures forever.”

Ashlee Proffitt

 

Excerpt from Grace Like Scarlett

Adriel Booker

 

Prayer of Saint Francis before the Crucifix;

Candle Lighting & Moment of Reflection

Bronwyn Lea

 

Original Song—Come Be You

Becca & Chris De Souza

 

Prayer for Mothers

Peyton Lauderdale

 

Prayer for Fathers

Clint Watkins

 

Scripture Reading—Mark 10:14b-16

“Let the little children come.”

Kelly Streiff

 

Prayer for Couples Struggling to Conceive

Anna Kettle 

 

Scripture Reading—Is 43: 2, 3a, 4a

“I am with you.”

Sarah Phillpot 

 

Prayer for Families & Relationships

Maria Furlough 

 

Prayer for Moving Forward

Erica M. McAfee

 

Scripture Reading—Rom 8:35, 37-39

“Nothing can separate us from God’s love.”

Elise Takashima

 

Benediction & Closing

Adriel & Ryan Booker

Presenters:

Bronwyn Lea @bronleatweets

 

Quantrilla Ard @quannyboo

 

Chris De Souza @desouzamusic

 

Ashlee Proffitt @ashleeproffitt

 

Auntie Sharon Minniecon

 

Kelly Streiff @kelly.streiff

 

Elise Takashima @elisetaka

 

Sarah Philpott @sarahlphilpott

 

Erica M. McAfee @ericammcafee

 

Clint Watkins @clintdwatkins

 

Becca De Souza @becca.desouza

 

Anna Kettle @notesonlifebyannakettle

 

Dr Mekel Harris @drmekel

 

Rachel Lewis @rachel.thelewisnote

 

Casey Parnell @caseyparnell

 

Maria Furlough @mariafurlough

 

Tanya Riches @teeriches

 

Peyton Lauderdale @gathering_hope

 

Ryan Booker @ryanbooker74

 

Adriel Booker @adrielbooker

 

 

meet your hosts:

Ryan and Adriel Booker

Ryan and Adriel Booker have been in vocational ministry for more than twenty years. Their passion is to help people discover the goodness of God, understand who they are in light of God’s care, and find their place in the world to help their communities flourish. Adriel is the author of Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and also the host of Our Scarlett Stories pregnancy loss community and Deep Dive peer support groups. She’s also the founder and host of Tethered—a gathering for those exploring the intersection of grief, faith, doubt, wholeness, and hope. They live in Sydney, Australia and have three children in their home and four in heaven. Find out more at www.adrielbooker.com.

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss by Adriel Booker

Maybe your grief is fresh and raw and you’re still reeling from the suffocating blow of a recent miscarriage. Or maybe you’ve long ago buried a secret grief, but something within is probing you to lean in closer to the pain once again. Grief is wild like the sea, but it doesn’t need to destroy us. We can’t conquer it, but we can navigate it, and we can find Jesus there too. Grace Like Scarlett will not explain away your pain, but it will help you see God’s invitation to be formed afresh in him. Grief can undo us, but it can also remake us. Let’s lean in together.

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© Adriel McIntosh Booker 2020

Please feel free to show the video replay of our remembrance service for any event as long as it remains free for attendees. If you would like to use it as part of a paid event, you must first seek permission.