Perhaps in an ideal world we’d make it stop and take the time we need to immerse ourselves in grief and then find our way back out. But in the real world we keep folding the laundry, keep scraping together the rent, keep showing up to fellowship
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When a friend of mine experienced stillbirth a few months after my first miscarriage, it forced me to look into the eyes of my own jealousy. Yes, I just said that. I was devastated to hear her news. It triggered my own deep feelings of loss while also sending -
They couldn’t find a heartbeat and several rounds of ultrasounds confirmed she had passed away. It all happened so fast and, truthfully, I didn’t believe them at first. Did they not hear me? I felt her alive a few hours ago. I’m sure of it. Didn’t they -
No matter how you feel, there is grace enough for you and for your own particular journey of motherhood. You can do this. You can feel what you need to feel, grieve how you need to grieve, and still celebrate the life of your newest little one. Your -
Grace Like Scarlett wasn’t the book I wanted to write. I couldn’t imagine why anyone would want to write a book on grief and suffering. But it was the book I needed to write—one about grace and hope, promise and presence. It was the book I wished -
How are you feeling this Mother’s Day? Do you feel forgotten? Invisible? Lonely? Do you feel sad? Angry? Hurt? Holidays can hurt after miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of infertility and pregnancy loss—Mother's Day especially. May you know you're not alone. May you feel seen and remembered, -
Have you ever felt like Jesus led you somewhere and then took off once he got there? Me too. I imagine this is how the disciples felt when they set sail only to find themselves terrified for their lives when the seas began to rage, threatening -
Deep breaths. I know—this is hard. Sometimes we see these days coming and the lead up is harder than the day itself. Sometimes it’s more sneaky and we didn’t realize an event or occasion was even going to be a milestone day in our grief journey. Sometimes -
Walking alongside hurting people in their pain is a sacred privilege. Thank you for your willingness to hold space for the grief of parents who have experienced miscarriage and other forms of pregnancy loss. The links and resources below have been compiled for easy reference to -
At 39, my husband, Ryan, could not recall a single conversation about miscarriage with another man in his life. In his letter to grieving dads, he describes having no idea how to deal with it: “We discuss other important issues at the pub with our mates, at -
“Why would you let this happen?” “Don’t you care about me?” “Why didn’t you save my baby?” In the wake of miscarriage we’re pummeled with questions—questions about the biology of reproduction, about our bodies, about medical procedures which may be required, as well as questions about how
