Watching brothers become mates | Nurturing your children’s relationships

Watching my boys interact lately has been incredible. Suddenly they have become both brothers and friends.

brothers becoming friends

Every parent hopes their children will grow up to be best friends, I’m sure. And I’m aware that it’s a little early to start jumping to any major conclusions…

But these two are loving. each. other.

When Levi wakes up from his nap, the first thing he does is ask if Judah’s up too.

“Judah? Nigh night? Judah? Wake?”

He is constantly hugging him, kissing him, rolling him around on the floor, laying on top of him (the closest he can get to actual wrestling without mama intervening), sharing toys with him, talking about him, talking to him, teaching him words, and making sure he’s included in everything we do.

toddler and baby wrestling

The other day as Levi was jumping in circles and hollering like a wild man, Ryan said to him, “Do we need to go outside and run around for a while?” Without missing a beat Levi replied, “Judah, run?”

As much as he obviously wanted to go, he wasn’t going without Judah by his side.

And Judah is just as smitten with his big brother. He loves watching him and imitating him. Every time Levi draws near, Judah grabs at his nose, grips his hair, or finds whatever he can cling to in order to draw big brother near.

baby grabbing for brother

If Levi’s not close enough to reach out and grab onto, Judah’s tracking him with wide eyes and raised brows, hanging on his every move.

Although I’m a close second, no one can make Judah giggle as quickly and loudly as Levi.

And more and more Levi’s most passionate giggles come when he’s getting a rise out of Judah.

They set each other off in the best possible way.

Even though Levi is well and truly a toddler now, and Judah is still a little baby not yet crawling, it’s easy to see the gap between them lessening already.

No doubt in six(ish) months when Judah is walking they will be inseparable… or at least chasing each other around the house and yard.

baby and toddler brothers wrestling

Watching the two of them together makes my mama-heart melt.

It makes all of the “were we insane to have our kids one year after the other?” thoughts dissipate into the firm belief that these two will be each others biggest blessing as they play and develop and grow up together.

Do I have rose-colored glasses in regards to my boys and their relationship?


But I’m okay with that. I see no reason why we can’t nurture their relationship from the beautiful place it’s already at.

So rosy or not, I’ll call it for how I see it right now – a bond so strong that it could only be felt between brothers who are the bets of buds.

Making my mama-heart swell, they are.

little brothers wrestling

Dear friends, how do you see the relationship between your children developing? What do you do to nurture it?


About Author

Adriel Booker is an author, speaker, and advocate based in Sydney, Australia who believes storytelling, beauty, and the grace of God will change the world. Adriel has become a trusted voice in areas of motherhood and parenting, Christian spirituality, and global women's issues. She's also known for her work with the Love A Mama Collective—serving under-resourced women in developing nations through safe birth initiatives—as well as her years spent as a Bible teacher and leadership coach. Her latest book is Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and she's made the companion grief journal available for free. Find Adriel across all social media platforms at @adrielbooker or sign up for LoveNotes, Adriel's 'secret posts' that aren't published anywhere else online. ✌️


  • leishell
    27 March 2012 at 1:46 am

    I’ve been hesitant to grow our family because of taking that one on one away from my son. Or maybe I feel like how could I love another baby?! Silly. But this adorable post made me want another so he could have a best bud. I guess we’ll see. Loved the pictures. I’m big on capturing moments…yiu certainly did!
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  • tracy dickinson
    27 March 2012 at 2:50 am

    my girls are only 16 months apart, and then my son came along only 21 months after that. my girls are inseperable, and while they have their moments of fighting, they are usually besties. i love seeing them when they play together, or hold hands, or just chat with each other. it is pretty presh. now when they are pulling hair, not so presh, but after all, they are three and two! i struggle with the decision of whether or not to have a fourth, to see if maybe we couldn’t get my son a brother…..your pics don’t help!!! great post as usual.
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    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      29 March 2012 at 3:40 pm

      yeah, that’s lots of littles, all close in age! another brother would be fun. i always wanted four kids growing up, but now i’m leaning more towards three. i guess we’ll have to cross that bridge later. hmmmm… 🙂
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  • Tara
    27 March 2012 at 3:27 am

    That is so adorable! They will be the best of friends! My sister and I were 23 months apart and we were inseperable as children from (my age, she was older) 13-19 we weren’t very close, well we weren’t best friends anymore (those darn rough teenage years) but now we are back to being inseperable! 🙂
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    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      29 March 2012 at 3:41 pm

      that seems fairly normal for sisters, ey? i always wanted a sister!! now i have an awesome sister-in-law, but we only see each other about once a year since she lives in another state. 🙁
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  • Alicia
    27 March 2012 at 3:51 am

    Oh I can’t wait to experience moments like these between my girls. Some days I worry that my little 2.5 year old will end up being jealous or feeling left out once the baby is born but deep down inside I know her heart is friendly, helpful and she just loves people….so I’m sure she’ll be fine. My hubby and his brother are 4 years apart and I’d say they are very close. Although far in geographical distance from each other, when they do get together you’d never know they had been apart for months at a time. 🙂 Such cute pictures of your little guys!!

    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      29 March 2012 at 3:42 pm

      i’m sure your daughter will have little moments of jealousy. totally normal and expected. BUT i’m sure she will have many many more moments of doting on her new sister. she will love helping and “mothering” her, i bet. how fun!!
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  • Erin
    27 March 2012 at 4:23 am

    Aww, this is so sweet. I hope that my boys will be buddies – they’ll be about 26 months apart, but Little Brother is not here yet. 🙂

  • Joanne
    27 March 2012 at 7:25 am

    Thank you for this post. I’ve just come to bed with (another) blinding headache, 5 months pregnant wondering how on earth I’ll cope with two under two. My gorgeous wee girl is 15 months. Your words have given me hope and made me feel much better. X

  • Melissa
    27 March 2012 at 8:36 am

    It is so fun watching brothers become friends and it’s so facinating how babies and kids love other babies and kids!

    My oldest two are only 14 months apart and they are best buddies. I look back at some of the early videos of them “wrestling” before Seth could even crawl and I think “what was I thinking” to let Gabe, (the oldest) be so rough with him!!

    Now they are 7 & 6 and they are still best of friends.. every night they have their “midnight meeting” (which is around 8 or 8:30, after the lights go out) and it usually involves them climbing onto Gabes bed and lots of giggling!

    My next two are each 2.5 years apart and I do notice my 3 year old vacillating between trying to be a big boy and playing with his 1 year old brother.

    I think it’s time I nurture my younger two’s relationship a little better! Thanks for the post!
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  • Elena
    28 March 2012 at 10:21 am

    The second to last photo is adorable! Love it!


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