• Mother's Day gift after miscarriage

    What to give someone on Mother’s Day after miscarriage

    Mother’s Day after miscarriage (and other types of pregnancy loss) can be hard. Give someone you love a soft place to land.     When I experienced my first miscarriage I had never felt so isolated, confused, and angry. I had also never felt such sadness—deep, deep sorrow. In the aftermath of my loss, I […]

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  • How to grieve when you don't have time to grieve - Adriel Booker

    How to grieve when you don’t have time to grieve

    Perhaps in an ideal world we’d make it stop and take the time we need to immerse ourselves in grief and then find our way back out. But in the real world we keep folding the laundry, keep scraping together the rent, keep showing up to fellowship on Sunday, and keep holding our grief through it all. And so this is how you'll find me grieving in the whirlwind...

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  • Comparison after Miscarriage - Adriel Booker

    Avoiding the Comparison Trap after Miscarriage and Loss

    When a friend of mine experienced stillbirth a few months after my first miscarriage, it forced me to look into the eyes of my own jealousy. Yes, I just said that. I was devastated to hear her news. It triggered my own deep feelings of loss while also sending my empathy into overdrive. I did my best […]

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  • miscarriage pregnancy loss adriel booker

    Yes, another loss

    They couldn’t find a heartbeat and several rounds of ultrasounds confirmed she had passed away. It all happened so fast and, truthfully, I didn’t believe them at first. Did they not hear me? I felt her alive a few hours ago. I’m sure of it. Didn’t they hear me?

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  • Letters to a Grieving Mom: Open if you're pregnant after miscarriage

    Letters to a Grieving Mom: Open if you’re pregnant after miscarriage

    No matter how you feel, there is grace enough for you and for your own particular journey of motherhood. You can do this. You can feel what you need to feel, grieve how you need to grieve, and still celebrate the life of your newest little one. Your sadness over what’s happened can sit side-by-side with the joy of new life. I know it feels like those things must compete but they don’t have to. You are a whole person with a whole complex range of emotions and responses...

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  • Adriel Booker and Jenni Burke - Grace Like Scarlett release day

    One year later: What it means to have my book turn one 

    Grace Like Scarlett wasn’t the book I wanted to write. I couldn’t imagine why anyone would want to write a book on grief and suffering. But it was the book I needed to write—one about grace and hope, promise and presence. It was the book I wished someone had handed me in the days when we lost our first baby to miscarriage. And our second. And our third. It was the book I *had* to write—one conceived at the bottom of my pain where I found God’s goodness was still there.

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  • When Jesus is Sleeping through Your Storm

    When Jesus is sleeping through your storm

      Have you ever felt like Jesus led you somewhere and then took off once he got there? Me too. I imagine this is how the disciples felt when they set sail only to find themselves terrified for their lives when the seas began to rage, threatening to swallow them whole. (Mark 4:35-41) These were […]

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  • Resources for pastors to minister to couples after miscarriage and pregnancy loss

    Resources for pastors to support couples after miscarriage

      Walking alongside hurting people in their pain is a sacred privilege. Thank you for your willingness to hold space for the grief of parents who have experienced miscarriage and other forms of pregnancy loss. The links and resources below have been compiled for easy reference to keep on hand for yourself and for your […]

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  • How to keep your marriage intact after miscarriage - Adriel Booker on Relevant Magazine

    15 Ways to nurture your marriage after miscarriage

    At 39, my husband, Ryan, could not recall a single conversation about miscarriage with another man in his life. In his letter to grieving dads, he describes having no idea how to deal with it: “We discuss other important issues at the pub with our mates, at church, on social media, on the news, and […]

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