Thank you son

How an unborn* child has taught us to give thanks a little deeper.


38 weeks and five days - judah's birthday

There are a thousand things I am thankful for. Literally. I’m sure I could write on and on about the good things in my life, the good things I see around me, and the good things I know to be true about life and humanity and the world.

But for my family this Thanksgiving is all about our little Judah.

Our Judah that the doctors said phrases like “chromosomal anomaly” and “down syndrome”… and then “dilated kidneys” and “potential bladder problems”… and even others more recently that I don’t even want to give “print” space to.

Each of those phrases caused concern and question and plenty of tears. But they also forced us to have faith and compelled us to be in hope.

And each of those phrases have fizzled in time as our son was born perfectly healthy.

We will never know whether some of those things actually existed while he was in the womb, or if they didn’t. We will never know if he was healed before birth or “healed” all along.

And that’s ok – we’ve made peace with not knowing.

For all of the “problems” and “abnormalities” and “threats” that turned out to be nothing, we are thankful. We’re thankful for the all the “nothings” but we’re also thankful for the so many “somethings” that have come out of the short few months during my pregnancy and now eight weeks in our arms:

Thankful for the opportunity to see the preciousness of life with more clarity.

Thankful for the peace that comes when God whispers in the storm.

Thankful for those that rally and pray and encourage and write and… bring zucchini bread.

Thankful to see that we are loved perhaps more than we realized.

Thankful to connect with people we never would have otherwise.

And thankful now for each little milestone that Judah makes – one more confirmation that he is in fact healthy and developing just as he should.

And there are other things he’s taught me to be thankful for too:

Thankful that I now see children with special needs with a deeper longing for them to experience love and acceptance and support in chasing their own dreams… because I’ve imagined my son in their shoes.

Thankful that I now see parents of children with special needs with more compassion and understanding and admiration… because I’ve imagined myself in their shoes.

Thankful that I now have a greater understanding of my own influence and role in championing and advocating their cause as I’m able.

There are a thousand things for me to be thankful for this Thanksgiving, but most of all I’m thankful for this year’s most special of gifts: the gift of our son Judah Matthew** and all that his life has meant to us so far.

Without words or actions or intention on his part he’s already taught us so much.

Thank you son. Thank you God.

We are beyond grateful.

*Our son is now of course born, but the lessons from this season began long before his birthday.
**Judah means “to call on the name of the Lord and to praise, confess, or give thanks”. Matthew means “gift of God”.

Dear friends, what has been your greatest gift to offer thanks for this year?

About Author

Adriel Booker is an author, speaker, and advocate based in Sydney, Australia who believes storytelling, beauty, and the grace of God will change the world. Adriel has become a trusted voice in areas of motherhood and parenting, Christian spirituality, and global women's issues. She's also known for her work with the Love A Mama Collective—serving under-resourced women in developing nations through safe birth initiatives—as well as her years spent as a Bible teacher and leadership coach. Her latest book is Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and she's made the companion grief journal available for free. Find Adriel across all social media platforms at @adrielbooker or sign up for LoveNotes, Adriel's 'secret posts' that aren't published anywhere else online. ✌️


  • Lisa
    25 November 2011 at 12:10 am

    What a beautiful post! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your beautiful (and growing) family! Best of luck to you all in the weeks and months ahead.

  • Alicia
    25 November 2011 at 11:59 pm

    Those are some priceless lessons you have learned through this season, but I am so thankful you’re little one was born healthy. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your boys!

  • kaitlin
    27 November 2011 at 10:18 am

    great post. i am so happy for your healthy and happy little boy. i am thankful for my son also…cannot believe the little bug is almost 2 weeks old!

  • Dalia
    27 November 2011 at 2:48 pm

    A priceless gift. What a beautiful little angel! You are so right “hope” what good is anything if we don’t have hope. Your hope gave you that beautiful, healthy baby and he is adorable. May your family truly blessed always.

  • Rachel
    29 November 2011 at 9:55 pm

    He is so precious! I’m really thankful for your joy too.

  • Jessica
    6 December 2011 at 5:08 am

    This is beautiful, Adriel. Just beautiful.

  • Faith R
    6 December 2011 at 2:43 pm

    This is SUCH a great post and I just LOVE all of these photos. I thought you’d like to know that I picked yours as one of my top five

  • Katherine
    7 December 2011 at 12:25 am

    Beautiful post. Beautiful pictures. Thanks for sharing.

  • […] cry. (Best. experience. ever.) Later that month I took a twist on Thanksgiving and posted about the things that our unborn son taught us about life, ourselves, and others as we considered the possibility of Down Syndrome. Oh, and who […]

  • moving forward « The Mommyhood Memos
    4 January 2012 at 10:18 pm

    […] of that “normal” stuff, I wish I could describe how much he’s changed my life. I’ve tried, but there’s so much more I’m not even sure how to […]

  • oh, my heart « The Mommyhood Memos
    27 September 2012 at 9:44 pm

    […] I don’t know how but my heart groans with love-joy-gratitude-something-so-holy-I can-only-say… thank you. […]

  • a tribute « The Mommyhood Memos
    11 October 2012 at 8:01 pm

    […] hit all his milestones. His life is a precious gift to us and he’s given us so very much to give thanks […]


Leave a Reply