the unsung

By Nessa Bixler, Moments and Impressions


Sometimes in all the hubabaloo of pregnancy, delivery, diaper changing, baby feeding, tear wiping, bedtime rocking, late nights, and even earlier mornings some things get lost.

They are pushed aside, put on a shelf for more pressing – deafening crying – matters.

It happens to the laundry, our friends, TV shows, sleep, our hair and our own well being.

But it also happens to some of the most important people in our lives…

our husbands.  The daddies.



It isn’t glaringly obvious and sometimes it isn’t even the mommy’s fault.

I think it is a perfect storm of events that can lead to exclusion.


We are carrying the baby and they are our trusty side kick.

We get a shower and they get crib assembly.

They are filling out paperwork and we are laboring.

They are holding a leg and we are birthing a new human.

We get first snuggles, first feedings, and first photos.

Family asks, “How is mama?” and just congratulate Daddy.


But in reality, they are the unsung heros.


Grabbing our latest craving at 10 p.m.

Carrying the shower gifts to the babies room – load after load.

Wiping our tears when we are overwhelmed with the size tiny onesies and newborn diapers.

Making sure paper work is complete for insurance to cover the delivery.

Giving us ice and holding our leg when all we can think is PUSH.

Watching us through tear-filled eyes as we first hold our newest edition.

Keeping family updated on what is going on so we can soak up the sent of our newborns.


Thank you daddies.

We couldn’t be great mommies without you.


Bio: Hi, I am Nessa. You can find me on my blog: I am mommy to a toddler-monster named Eva and the lucky wife to her daddy Michael. I am so happy for Adriel and her family. I am wishing them joy and happiness during this time of expansion and love. Congratulations you guys.


Dear friends, are you crying too? (Thank you for this beautiful and insightful post Nessa.) She is so right – Daddies are often unsung heros. I’m so grateful for my husband – he is everything mentioned here and more. Have you told your husband how much you appreciate him lately?

with gratitude,





About Author

Adriel Booker is an author, speaker, and advocate based in Sydney, Australia who believes storytelling, beauty, and the grace of God will change the world. Adriel has become a trusted voice in areas of motherhood and parenting, Christian spirituality, and global women's issues. She's also known for her work with the Love A Mama Collective—serving under-resourced women in developing nations through safe birth initiatives—as well as her years spent as a Bible teacher and leadership coach. Her latest book is Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and she's made the companion grief journal available for free. Find Adriel across all social media platforms at @adrielbooker or sign up for LoveNotes, Adriel's 'secret posts' that aren't published anywhere else online. ✌️


  • Melissa @ Sisters 'N Cloth
    21 October 2011 at 11:57 pm

    Yes, I am crying too! So beautiful. With four little blessings running around, I often find myself in survival mode, and even at times feel like I am flying solo, but I know that’s not really true. Thanks for the reminder to celebrate our sweet husbands! And to Adriel, what sweet toes! Enjoy the kisses!

    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      24 October 2011 at 9:46 pm

      Oh, how true! I loathe survival mode! I think even those of us who admire and appreciate our husbands still need reminders to deliberately celebrate them!! They are so worth it.

      And yes, I’m definitely enjoying all those kisses. 🙂

  • Courtney @ The Mommy Matters
    22 October 2011 at 11:21 am

    Oh this is SO SWEET. I don’t know what us mommies would do with our husbands and the daddies. They have such important jobs.

  • Heather
    22 October 2011 at 1:13 pm

    Beautiful! And so true. I have often said that I don’t think I could be even a third as patient a mother, without my husband to help out and step in when I need a hand. He did all of those things mentioned above, and more. He listened to me cry with frustration when my babies wanted to nurse non stop round the clock in the early months, he made me breakfast, lunch and diner to eat while I was glued to the couch feeding the baby. It is the Daddy who helps us be the best mom we possibly can be. I will be thanking my husband again for all that he does!

    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      24 October 2011 at 9:47 pm

      Yeah, I certainly don’t think I’d be as good a mom if I didn’t have my husband here cheering me on!

  • Kirsten
    23 October 2011 at 7:22 am

    I just gave my husband a big kiss. He really is an amazing dad and husband.

  • […] The Unsung by Nessa and shared @ The Mommyhood Memos: All too often after a newborn baby comes along, everyone showers the new mommy with praise and encouragement. Often forgetting that there is another parent in the equation: The Daddy. I don’t know about all of you, but I never quite feel like I give my husband enough credit for all that he does for me or for our son. He’s a fantastic father and I don’t think either of us would make it without him. This is a beautiful tribute post to the daddies out there. […]

  • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
    24 October 2011 at 9:48 pm

    Oh Nessa, I LOVE this post. You have such a way with words… and yes, you’re right, it’s SO important that we’re honoring the daddies – they are heros indeed!! Thank you again for your contribution. xx

  • Teva
    24 October 2011 at 10:11 pm

    This is great. In fact I was going to write a blog this week and declare International Husband Appreciation Day. It is one thing to get ties and mugs on Father’s Day but I just want to shower love on my guy for being the steady in our home. I think we all need a little reminding to love on the “unsung heroes”.

  • Hannah
    26 October 2011 at 4:00 am

    Beautiful post, it is so true we do often overlook the daddies, they really are unsung heroes. I will have to remember to thank my hubby today 🙂

  • Nessa
    26 October 2011 at 12:51 pm

    Adriel – finally have the computer back and running – just intime to say thank you! I hope you are soaking in all this family-of-four-awesomeness!

    • Adriel @ The Mommyhood Memos
      4 November 2011 at 8:47 am

      oh yes, i’m loving it nessa! thank you. challenging moments at time (more with the toddler than the newborn – ha!) but loving it nonetheless!! 🙂

  • Branson
    27 October 2011 at 7:36 am

    This is absolutely beautiful!


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