Women, take your place. Teach. Preach. Lead.


I’ll never forget the first time a man sat in the back row, arms folded across his chest, scowling at me while I preached. Thankfully I wasn’t completely disarmed, but I was perplexed. Still in my early twenties myself, I was young and naive, and didn’t fully grasp why or how people would be opposed to women preaching. Of course, it didn’t take me long to learn this once I discussed this situation with the leader who was hosting me as a speaker. He explained how the young man was adamantly opposed to the pulpit being handed over to me.

I had been invited to speak for an entire week and was determined not to let this burly young man intimidate me, but I confess—it was difficult. It would have been easier if he would have simply left instead of continuing to sit there and stare me down. But he didn’t. He stayed. He stayed and glared.

Miraculously, by the end of the week he was lining up to speak to me personally so he could apologize for his behavior and confess how much he had learned and been ministered to throughout the week. This isn’t always the case, but this particular story happens to end with redemption.

I once shared this story with a friend who is also a preacher and pastor and she recalled the time when a man turned his chair around while she was preaching. He didn’t leave—no, that would have been too passive—he turned his chair backwards and stayed there to make sure everyone in attendance knew how much he disapproved.

These stories took place more than a decade ago for each of us, but they illuminate something women in church are faced with every day: We are made to feel—and sometimes outright told—that our voice and gift are not welcome.

I recently spent fifteen+ hours over the course of five days teaching another group of fifty 20-somethings about life, God, and finding your identity in Jesus. It’s a huge honor to be invited into people’s lives like that and—as much as I do regularly teach and preach—I hope I never take this privilege for granted. All over again I was reminded that women being “allowed” to preach is not a given—and certainly not celebrated in some circles the way I have been fortunate to be embraced and celebrated over the years.

Growing up it was fairly normal for me to see women at the pulpit, though at the time I didn’t know any female pastors other than women’s or children’s pastors, and it wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized not everyone believes teaching ministry or pastoral leadership within the church are legitimate places for women. (Many believe these roles should be limited, such as women only pastoring or speaking to other women or children.)

This makes me incredibly sad because as long as our women aren’t included in the full spectrum of church life we’re missing half of the expression of God’s voice and gift to the church and to the world. (Let it be noted how grateful I am to be a part of a mission and church and family that affirm the contributions of women.)

My week with these young men and women was so rich and beautiful. We went deep as they asked question after question—not the type easily addressed with clichés or Sunday school answers—but the kind that mix doubt with faith and honesty and struggle and conviction and hope and leave us all seeking Jesus a little bit more. How humbling and fulfilling to get to facilitate that, and after pouring out all week I left with my heart absolutely full.

Here’s the thing: God has gifted me to teach and preach and my soul comes alive when I’m given the opportunity. I used to feel timid about saying this but I don’t any more. Preaching is something I’m good at and it’s okay to say that out loud. Honestly admitting we are good at something is humbling because that’s what humility is: it’s confessing who we are— strengths, weaknesses, and all—and not being afraid to be our whole, true selves no matter who is watching or listening or how we perceive them to perceive us. It makes me giggle a little, sure, but I’ve always admired Moses who said he was “the most humble person on earth.” This is humility: agreeing with God about who he says you are (just as Moses did). And as I mature in my own faith, I hope I continue to grow in humility as well. (It’s worth noting here that false humility is when we are self-depreciating or when we downplay the gifts God’s given us. This serves no one and certainly doesn’t honor God. Don’t make the mistake of calling that ‘humility.’)

I hope as a speaker/preacher/teacher I will always make room for the hard questions and give space for others to come to personal revelation through helping unpack the bible and the good and mysterious and wondrous ways of God. I also hope that by being bold and confident in how God’s created and gifted me I will make other young women (and men!) discover and sense permission to be themselves fully, too.

So this is for the young women coming along after me, wondering if you, too, have permission to follow your heart and desire and gift onto a stage or behind a pulpit: There is room for you—all of you.

There’s room for us all at God’s table, in his arms, and within his plan for making all things new. Take your place sisters. Take your place brothers. We can’t change the world flying solo. And we can’t change it without each other. The sisterhood + the brotherhood = the family.

There is room for us all.

Books exploring the theology of women in church and pastoral leadership

This is not the post where I will break down the theology of women in church or pastoral leadership, but I can recommend some resources for you if you’d like to learn more or if you’re still grappling with women’s roles within the church (or home—which is another topic, but intimately related).

The following books and blogs are a good starting point. They are biblical and sound, but still accessible (and not overly academic)

Blogs & Articles:

15 Reasons Why I Support Women in Church Leadership by theologian Marg Mowczko

Mutuality Series by Rachel Held Evans

The Junia Project (this is their resource page—start there—and then explore the blog)


Scripture and the Authority of God: How to Read the Bible Today by N.T. Wright

Why Not Women by Loren Cunningham and David Hamilton

Half the Church: Recapturing God’s Global Vision for Women by Carolyn Curtis James

Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey

About Author

Adriel Booker is an author, speaker, and advocate based in Sydney, Australia who believes storytelling, beauty, and the grace of God will change the world. Adriel has become a trusted voice in areas of motherhood and parenting, Christian spirituality, and global women's issues. She's also known for her work with the Love A Mama Collective—serving under-resourced women in developing nations through safe birth initiatives—as well as her years spent as a Bible teacher and leadership coach. Her latest book is Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss and she's made the companion grief journal available for free. Find Adriel across all social media platforms at @adrielbooker or sign up for LoveNotes, Adriel's 'secret posts' that aren't published anywhere else online. ✌️


  • Mary Kate Brown
    19 April 2018 at 2:58 pm

    Love this. All of this! A friend and I were just chatting about how the character of God is expressed in both male and female. Adam was created- Eve was taken out of and formed from Adam. It’s not a hierarchy. I also love the book ‘Fashioned to Reign’ by Kris Vallotton.

    • Adriel Booker
      25 May 2018 at 4:04 pm

      It’s strange to me that some people use this very story to illustrate Adam’s prominence because of “birth order” (creation order). It’s such a twist of the truth.
      Thanks for leaving the book recommendation! I haven’t read that one.

  • Alicia LaBeau
    19 July 2018 at 11:24 am

    I love This! Thank you for writing it. We have recently been looking for a new church. As we have tried out a variety of churches and denominations, there have been some with a more conservative belief about the issue of women’s roles in the church. I was raised in a church where women were not allowed to have positions of authority over men, and I have really wrestled with this through the years. As we have visited some of these churches, my heart has ached because I don’t feel like I could fully fit and find place to use my giftings. It has been hard, yet healing, to realize some of the areas I have grown in my understanding of who I was created to be as we have been on this journey of finding a new church home.

    • Adriel Booker
      21 July 2018 at 1:01 pm

      I hope you’re able to find a place you feel comfortable in. I know this isn’t a deal breaker for some, but for us it’s important to be a part of a local church family that affirms women preaching and leading because of the way it reflects back to the position God takes toward women.


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