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Mother’s Day for those who have lost or are longing

 Mothers Day for those who have lost or are longing

For mamas who have lost a child, born or unborn…

For mamas holding a sick child, daring to wonder how much time you have left…

For women who have yearned for a child and have been unable to conceive…

For single women who long to be married and start a family yet remain waiting…

For those wanting to adopt who haven’t yet been able to see that dream become reality…

For those who needed to let someone else care for their child and had to say goodbye…

For single moms of young kids who are too young to know how to appreciate mama as she deserves…

For moms serving in the military who are deployed and far away from their babies…

For moms of teenagers who have pushed away from them…

I see you this Mother’s Day. I hold your heart in mine and ask for God’s grace to find you.

For those who never knew their mother…

For those who have had a mother walk out on them…

For those who had a mother who was there but not there

For those who have lost a mother…

For those who have lost a grandmother…

For those who have lost a mother-figure…

I see you this Mother’s Day. I hold your heart in mine and ask for God’s grace to find you.

May you be comforted in your loss or in your longing. May your eyes be opened to those you have “mothered” through your love and care and nurturing, whether children have filled your home or not. And may you be filled with sweet memories of the special women in your own life who are as mothers to you, even if your own is gone.

Mothers and mother figures everywhere are deserving of our honor. You are appreciated… and I sincerely hope there’s someone in your life to help you know it.

I see you this Mother’s Day. I hold your heart in mine and ask for God’s grace to find you.


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  • Reply Eleanor Alexander 8 May 2011 at 2:35 pm

    That's a really beautiful post Adriel

  • Reply alison 8 May 2011 at 5:42 pm

    it's funny that i am reading this post right now because it's what i've been thinking about all day today. it's also what our pastor spoke about in his sermon. he knows from personal experience since he and his wife were never able to have children. i think that we should always be aware and sensitive to the feelings of others in all situations. my prayer is that all women will feel honored and blessed today…not just the mommies!

  • Reply Anonymous 8 May 2011 at 10:17 pm

    i recognize that photo!! good message, Adriel. thank you.

    • Reply Linda 16 August 2016 at 10:19 am

      If Mothers Day is so hurtful, they should ban it completely!

      • Reply Adriel Booker 12 May 2017 at 2:50 pm

        Hi Linda. I think Mother’s Day is wonderful and motherhood should be celebrated for the gift that it is. It seems to me we should be able to acknowledge the moms among us and celebrate them and honor the hard work of mothering, while also acknowledging that it is a sensitive time for many women. Why do those things need to be at odds? x
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  • Reply JIll 9 May 2011 at 12:58 am

    Oh, Adriel this was perfect. I have a college roommate that has recently lost her unborn child. I was not sure how to address today being mother's day. Your post was perfect, infact I forward it to her with my happy mother's day wish. I was still uncertain how it would be taken, and I was really relived to find out that she was very greatful for my wish and it has opened the door for others to wish her a happy Mother's Day. I hope that it will help her in her healing. Thank you so much for this post.

  • Reply Adriel Booker 9 May 2011 at 12:26 pm

    Thank you for your comments and emails. It’s reinforced from the pageview (high) to comment (low) ratio that this is a very sensitive subject. If you prefer to email me privately with your response or feedback, I can be reached at hello @ adrielbooker . com

    Big hugs to all. XO

  • Reply Getrealmommy 9 May 2011 at 3:13 am

    I have a friend who after many, many years of fertility treatments had her final round of invitro fail this weekend. Heartbreaking. So many women struggle with infertility, or never have their dreams of motherhood realized. I myself went through some infertility issues, and I am always very open to speak about them. I think we need to make it less of a taboo topic. These women deserve to be honored as well!

  • Reply rachael 9 May 2011 at 6:41 pm

    I had a young child ask me on Mother's Day several years ago if I was a mom. My answer: "Yes, I just haven't had my kids yet."

  • Reply 10 May 2011 at 1:23 am

    Wow, you are so amazing. I almost teared up… I had a mom who was there but not there… and I lost it a bit on Sunday with the whole wanting to be married and a mom but still waiting thing… but I was blessed to feel so close to God and know that I'm SO lucky…

  • Reply LoveLife 11 May 2011 at 8:56 pm

    Such a great post… Thank you for talking about this! I've spent 4 years as a Mommy. The first year, I was so overwhelmed I barely paid attention to my own mother, the second year was better, I remembered to honour her and got some special treatment myself too, the third Mother's Day was a complete blur with a newborn in the house, and this year I had a lovely day and found my own mother a special gift. But some of these other people you talk about in your post were with me in my thoughts, and I didn't really know how to navigate 'Mother's Day' with them. Your post has showed me a way I might share the day with anyone, even those who we are afraid of hurting by shining a light on their struggles or sadness. Of course, it needs to be approached delicately and with sensitivity, but I think avoiding it (as I did with my neighbour…who delivered my baby but never had children herself, and my friend, whose mother died young) is far more awkward.

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  • Reply Alison 13 May 2012 at 8:11 pm

    Hi, I googled “mothers day to those who have lost” and I found this page. Such a fitting post as I know so many who have lost children & mothers over the last few years.
    2012 – a year on your post still being read! 🙂

    • Reply Adriel Booker 14 May 2012 at 11:04 pm

      oh, thanks for letting me know alison. it’s hard. i’m glad this post is still encouraging a few women, even a year later. happy mama’s day to you. xo
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  • Reply Agnieszka J. 12 May 2013 at 4:05 pm

    Hello Adriel,

    This is not a comment, it’s a request and I’m hoping you’ll say “yes” to it. I would like to ask for your permission to share for Mother’s day “To you all of you, I want to say Happy Mothers Day as well.”
    What you wrote is really beautiful.

    Thank you,
    Agnieszka J.

  • Reply Happy Mother's Day to you, "perfect" mom. (Yeah, that's you.) 12 May 2013 at 7:59 pm

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  • Reply Judith 13 May 2013 at 1:44 am

    I found this perfect page after searching for “mother’s day for women who almost were mothers. Thank you so much. I hope you don’t mind that I posted the link to this page on facebook. Happy Mother’s Day to you, Adriel.

    • Reply Adriel 15 July 2013 at 3:09 pm

      I Judith, I’m so glad you found something in my words and sentiments that you found helpful. Bless you, dear one! x
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  • Reply Mer 12 June 2014 at 4:24 pm

    I’d like to adapt this for a meditation for a Father’s Day I’m planning. Would that be alright? If so how would you like it to be credited?

    • Reply Adriel 12 June 2014 at 5:45 pm

      What a beautiful idea Mer! And thank you for asking.

      Will it be an oral presentation or something you’d like to post online?

      • Reply Mer 12 June 2014 at 6:01 pm

        It will be an oral presentation during a church service, but I could email the adaptation to you if you’d like.

        • Reply Adriel 12 June 2014 at 8:10 pm

          Sounds great. I’m happy for you to just say you modified your meditation from a blog post written by Adriel Booker. That’s absolutely enough! 🙂

          And yes, I’d love to see the adaptation you make – not because I want to “approve” it by any means, but because I think I’d be inspired by it! Sounds wonderful. Thanks Mer. Have a beautiful service!

  • Reply Leslie 14 April 2015 at 9:52 am

    Beautifully said~

  • Reply Karen 6 March 2016 at 7:53 pm

    Thank you for writing this

    • Reply Adriel Booker 31 March 2016 at 1:06 pm

      God bless you Karen. x
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    • Reply Maria 11 August 2020 at 10:49 pm

      Hello to this page. I have no idea what to say for a mother who lost a,son 3 weeks aho for Mothers Day.Any ideas?
      In my country on Saturday we celebrate Mothers Day. For many moms abd family it be a happy day but for a,lady im stsrting to know it be sad cause she lost her son 3 weeks aho and the young age of 47. She could still be grieving but I dont know.
      I want to text this lady a nice message even if it be a,sad day cause im sure she will remembering it is Mothers Day but she has no don now. She has 2 other sons though.
      I dont know the woman a,lot we are not like best friends just casual acquaintances.The thing is that I did know her son.

      I just spoke on the phone to this lady for the first time after his son died we never knew each other before in person. not even physically.
      So what kind of heartfell nice message to give this woman on Mothers Day knowing that she could be sad on her special day? I want to cheer her up a little even if she be sad.


  • Reply Kelly 23 April 2016 at 5:57 am

    I would also add stepmoms to the list. They do all the work of a mom, but don’t get to spend mother’s day with the child and get none of the appreciation.

    • Reply Adriel Booker 23 April 2016 at 12:05 pm

      Thanks Kelly, absolutely! Appreciate your insight.

      Not sure if you’re a stepmom or not, but if so I hope your husband/partner does something this year Mother’s Day to help the kids recognize your contribution to their life. Maybe a friend of yours has the type of relationship where they can drop a subtle hint to him??

  • Reply Helen Carter 7 May 2016 at 12:36 am

    I hope you don’t mind I have taken this and posted it on my Facebook page. I have given you credit. If you do I will remove it but it speaks to so many women within my church who will be suffering this Mother’s day. My mother has been passed now for over 22 years and I still feel the lose each and every day. Many of the women in our church not only have lost mothers but have either never married or have remained childless after many years of attempting to conceive. Some have even lost babies. Thank you for this beautiful expression of love and understanding.

    • Reply Adriel Booker 9 May 2016 at 10:30 am

      Of course Helen. Thank you for your heart and concern to others. I hope this little piece can be an encouragement to those in your circle that may head into Mother’s Day with mixed emotions. May God bless you.

  • Reply Rojo99 7 May 2016 at 2:55 am

    Mother’s day is a day for anyone who has filled that void in a child’s life! Stop making women and men feel like you must be 21 to 30 to enjoy this great day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Reply Rubin 8 May 2016 at 11:01 am

    The post for Mother’s Day for those who have lost or longing is beautiful.
    Thank you.

  • Reply Rick Patterson 9 May 2016 at 12:31 am

    Beautiful and touching – I posted this on my Facebook page, along with a link to your website. I’ve been feeling for all of those you mentioned there, and have seen them post sad messages on their timelines. I hope this makes their day a little better.

  • Reply Jacob 12 May 2019 at 4:10 pm

    This subject has been on my heart as we head into this lovely Mother’s Day 2019, I hope you will allow me to speak your words of passion and encouragement tomorrow during a small moment of the mother’s day service, all credit belonging to you of course! Amazing to see you’ve allowed HIM to speak through you, many years ago but still true today, words of encouragement to many on this day!!

    • Reply Adriel Booker 25 May 2019 at 7:23 pm

      Hi Jacob. I’m sorry I missed your comment and question until now. I hope you went ahead and read this in your service. Of course you are welcome. Bless you.

  • Reply María 12 August 2020 at 1:08 am

    Good morning. I need to text a mother who lost a son just 3 weeks ago but I dont know what word of encouragements say. This situation is peculiar. The text I want to text is to wish this mother Happy Mothers Day as in the country I live next weekend is Mothers Day but given the circumstances of her current situation now, it can be a sad day for this lady to celebrate Mothers Day when she lost 3 weeks ago a son. The son died at the young age of 47 tragically and unexpected. The lady though has other 2 sons. I onlky knew the son who died, I dont know her other sons. Also in person I dont know this lady physically I just spoke over the phone with her once and for the first time a few days after her son died. So we are not like friends the only link we have is that I knew her son but I never met her in person when her son was alive. But out of sympathy and cause I knew her son is the reason we spoke on the phone a few days later but also we spoke over the phone cause I mailed her and her family a flower condolences to her house so she thanked me for it and that is why we spoke on the phone for the first time. She even had invited me over to her house in the future to meet me.

    So now I want to text her and tell her Happy Mothers Day but probably it wont be a happy day for her butu I want to comfort her on this day too and cheer her up a little bit. So what words or phrases to use so I can tell her.

    Thanks for any ideas you may have.

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