Miscarriage & Loss Resources

Support After Miscarriage—Stories, Resources, Community

Welcome, dear one.

You’ve landed on my page for miscarriage stories, pregnancy loss support, and a number of other resources to help you navigate grief and loss after miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.

It’s hard isn’t it—knowing how to grieve the loss of a baby you imagined your entire future with? I know. I have six children, but only three around my dinner table.

While I don’t know your story, I imagine you’re here in search of some encouragement or validation or companionship. I can tell you this with confidence: We do grieve, but not without hope. My aim with the resources and stories below is to help you know you’re not alone and—if you’re willing—to help you see that God can be found even in the midst of our greatest anguish.

This page is not static; it is growing and changing all the time and includes links to blog posts and resources from me as well as those from other trusted sources. I hope it serves you well. If you’d like to connect with our pregnancy loss community, you can find us on instagram at @ourscarlettstories where we share short stories of grief + grace + hope.

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Adriel’s book on miscarriage:

“Grief is wild like the sea, but it doesn’t need to destroy us. We can’t conquer it, but we can learn to navigate it. And we can find Jesus there too.”

Sharing Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infertility Stories to Help and Heal after Pregnancy Loss — Short, powerful stories from ten women on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, infertility, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.

The Day I Lost My Baby and Among the Fields of Gold: Losing My Baby in Italy — The stories of my first two miscarriages.

Dear Pregnant Woman on the Playground (With Love from a Baby-Loss Mom) — Relating to other pregnant women while approaching your due date.

Dear Baby: Four Years Later — The notion of “getting over” grief.

Under the Olive Tree — Grief brings a wild array of emotions. In the case of my second, furious anger and guilt. 

Why I Share About the Hard Stuff (and the Power of Story) — Shame, stigma, vulnerability, and healing.

The Promise of Easter and Meeting Our Babies Again — Despair and hope in light of the resurrection of Jesus.

Breaking the Silence: Mothers Sharing Stories about Miscarriage and Loss — Breaking the stigma, not because we’re brave but because we’re desperate and hopeful.

This Ground is Holy — The paradox of joy and sorrow.

We Named Her Scarlett Grace — Learning to grieve with hope.

Learning to Stay Afloat in the Waves of Grief — Coping with the unpredictable nature of grief.

He is With Us. Really. — Where grace abounds in deep waters.

Our Stupid Fish Died. And Our Baby Died, Too. — Relating to my living children after miscarriage.

Mother’s Day for Those Who Have Lost or Are Longing — Mother’s day for those who find it hard.

Remembering Your Baby after Miscarriage — Memorial ideas for honoring your baby’s life after pregnancy loss.

No, I’m Not ‘Lucky’ Because I Had a Miscarriage at 6 Weeks — by Julia Dellitt

Confronting the Lie: God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle — Nate Pyle

Letters to a Grieving Mom: Mother’s Day after Miscarriage and Loss

Body Image after Miscarriage (coming soon)

Miscarriage FAQs, Symptoms of Miscarriage, Terminology Explained, Types of Miscarriage, (Tommy’s National Miscarriage Centre)

15 Things that will Happen to your Body after a Miscarriage

Mental Health after Miscarriage and Loss (coming soon)

How to Help a Friend after Miscarriage or Stillbirth — What to say (and not say) after miscarriage and how to be a practical help and support and encouragement to your grieving friend.

Creating a Care Package for a Friend After Miscarriage — Simple, thoughtful gift ideas to create your own care package and let your friend know you’re thinking of her.

Mothers Day for the Rest of Us (and How to Help a Mom who’s Hurting) — Simple and practical ideas for how to remember hurting moms at Mother’s Day.

What to Not to Say to Someone Who’s Lost a Baby (And What You Can Say Instead)

Supporting the Man You Love through Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Grief

Miscarriage and Pregnancy/Infant Loss Bereavement Cards (coming soon)

Why I Believe in Early Pregnancy Announcements Despite the Risk (and Fear) of Miscarriage — Shame, fear, stigma, community, support, women’s issues… this post covers all of it.

Rainbow Baby — What is a “rainbow baby” and why it’s a broken metaphor (to me).

Sinking Deep: Thoughts on Pregnancy After Miscarriage — The emotional minefield of pregnancy after loss.

Playlist of Songs for Grief & Hope (coming soon)

Scriptures for Study and Meditation on Grief & Hope (coming soon)

Hope Mommies Bible Study

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss by Adriel Booker

A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis

Is God to Blame: Beyond Pat Answers to the Problem of Suffering by Gregory Boyd

Lord Willing: Wrestling with God’s Role in My Child’s Death by Jessica Kelley

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser

Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey

Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy by Pam Vredevelt

I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy by Angie Smith

Every Bitter Thing is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things by Sara Hagerty

Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional Companion for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child by Katie Wunnenburg

Please note: I share some differences of theology with a few of these books, particularly around the area of whether or not God “wills” or “allows” the death of our babies. I do, however, still recommend each of these wonderful books as a comfort to help normalize the pain and grief of pregnancy and baby loss, while fueling you with courage for your faith and healing journey. They will point you toward the love and kindness and hope of Jesus, which is the very most important thing.

On dealing with shame: The Beast of Shame by Sandra Unger (or watch video)

Mourning Into Joy newsletter by Sharon McKeeman

Miscarriage Stories & Pregnancy Loss Community:

Our Scarlett Stories: grief + grace + hope 

Join our instagram community where parents share stories of miscarriage and other forms of pregnancy loss, providing support and hope for the grief journey. (Read more about submitting your own story.)

 

Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Grief Resources