Miscarriage & Loss Resources

Support After Miscarriage—Stories, Resources, Community

Miscarriage Stories & Resources—Adriel Booker

 

Welcome, dear one. You’ve landed on my page for miscarriage stories, pregnancy loss support, and a number of other resources to help you navigate grief and loss after miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss. This page is not static; it is growing and changing all the time and includes links to blog posts and resources from me as well as those from other sources. I hope it serves you well. If you’d like to connect with our community, you can find us on instagram at @ourscarlettstories.

 

Adriel’s Book on Miscarriage:

Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss

 

Miscarriage Stories & Blog Posts by Adriel:

Sharing Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infertility Stories to Help and Heal after Pregnancy Loss — Short, powerful stories from ten women on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, infertility, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.

The Day I Lost My Baby and Among the Fields of God: Losing My Baby in Italy — The stories of my first two miscarriages.

Dear Pregnant Woman on the Playground (With Love from a Baby-Loss Mom) — Relating to other pregnant women while approaching your due date.

Dear Baby: Four Years Later — The notion of “getting over” grief.

Under the Olive Tree — Grief brings a wild array of emotions. In the case of my second, furious anger and guilt. 

Why I Share About the Hard Stuff (and the Power of Story) — Shame, stigma, vulnerability, and healing.

The Promise of Easter and Meeting Our Babies Again — Despair and hope in light of the resurrection of Jesus.

Breaking the Silence: Mothers Sharing Stories about Miscarriage and Loss — Breaking the stigma, not because we’re brave but because we’re desperate and hopeful.

This Ground is Holy — The paradox of joy and sorrow.

We Named Her Scarlett Grace — Learning to grieve with hope.

Learning to Stay Afloat in the Waves of Grief — Coping with the unpredictable nature of grief.

He is With Us. Really. — Where grace abounds in deep waters.

Our Stupid Fish Died. And Our Baby Died, Too. — Relating to my living children after miscarriage.

Mother’s Day for Those Who Have Lost or Are Longing — Mother’s day for those who find it hard.

Don’t You Want Kids? | The Secret Burden of Infertility — A monthly grief.

 

Caring for a Friend after Miscarriage:

How to Help a Friend after Miscarriage or Stillbirth — What to say (and not say) after miscarriage and how to be a practical help and support and encouragement to your grieving friend.

Creating a Care Package for a Friend After Miscarriage — Simple, thoughtful gift ideas to create your own care package and let your friend know you’re thinking of her.

Mothers Day for the Rest of Us (and How to Help a Mom who’s Hurting) — Simple and practical ideas for how to remember hurting moms at Mother’s Day.

 

Pregnancy After Miscarriage:

Why I Believe in Early Pregnancy Announcements Despite the Risk (and Fear) of Miscarriage — Shame, fear, stigma, community, support, women’s issues… this post covers all of it.

Rainbow Baby — What is a “rainbow baby” and why it’s a broken metaphor.

Sinking Deep: Thoughts on Pregnancy After Miscarriage — The emotional minefield of pregnancy after loss.

 

Coming Soon:

Men, Marriage, & Miscarriage

Helping Children Grieve After Miscarriage

Body Image After Miscarriage

 

Miscarriage Stories & Pregnancy Loss Community:

Our Scarlett Stories — Sharing stories of grief and loss and the Grace holding us together. Read stories of miscarriage, stillbirth, infertility, abortion, infant loss, or submit yours.

 

Books I Recommend on Grief, Hope, & Faith:

A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis

Is God to Blame: Beyond Pat Answers to the Problem of Suffering by Gregory Boyd

Lord Willing: Wrestling with God’s Role in My Child’s Death by Jessica Kelley

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser

Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey

Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy by Pam Vredevelt

I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy by Angie Smith

Every Bitter Thing is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things by Sara Hagerty

Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional Companion for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child by Katie Wunnenburg

Please note: I share some differences of theology with a few of these books, particularly around the area of whether or not God “wills” or “allows” the death of our babies. That may not be an important issue to you, but it is to me. The best resource I can personally recommend on that topic is Lord Willing. I do, however, still recommend each of these wonderful books as a comfort to help normalize the pain and grief of pregnancy and baby loss, while fueling you with courage for your faith and healing journey. They will point you toward the love and kindness and hope of Jesus, which is the very most important thing.

 

Other Miscarriage Stories & Resources:

The Physicality of Miscarriage:

Miscarriage FAQs, Symptoms of Miscarriage, Terminology Explained, Types of Miscarriage, (Tommy’s National Miscarriage Centre)

15 Things that will Happen to your Body after a Miscarriage

Men, Marriage, & Miscarriage

Why We Need Better Support for Men after Miscarriage by Catherine Rodie

How Miscarriage Affects a Marriage by Lindsey Bell

How My Marriage Changed After My Miscarriage by Jessica Zucker

Men and Miscarriage by Patrick Stafford

Waiting

Infertility: What We Wished We’d Known About Childlessness

A Prayer for the Waiting Time by Emily P. Freeman

Helping Children Grieve After Miscarriage

Navigating Children’s Grief: How to Help Following a Death

Helping Children Cope with Grief

Encouragement

Amazing teaching on dealing with shame: The Beast of Shame by Sandra Unger (or watch video)

Mourning Into Joy newsletter by Sharon McKeeman

 

Miscarriage & Loss Support Organizations:

SANDS Australia

Hope Mommies (Christian)

Pregnancy Loss Australia

Still Standing (facebook)

Sufficient Grace Ministries

MISS Foundation

Grief Share

National Share

Tommy’s National Miscarriage Centre

 

Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Grief Resources