Miscarriage & Loss Resources
Welcome, dear one.
You’ve landed on my page for miscarriage stories, pregnancy loss support, and a number of other resources to help you navigate grief and loss after miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.
It’s hard isn’t it—knowing how to grieve the loss of a baby you imagined your entire future with? I know. I have six children, but only three around my dinner table.
While I don’t know your story, I imagine you’re here in search of some encouragement or validation or companionship. I can tell you this with confidence: We do grieve, but not without hope. My aim with the resources and stories below is to help you know you’re not alone and—if you’re willing—to help you see that God can be found even in the midst of our greatest anguish.
This page is not static; it is growing and changing all the time and includes links to blog posts and resources from me as well as those from other trusted sources. I hope it serves you well. If you’d like to connect with our pregnancy loss community, you can find us on instagram at @ourscarlettstories where we share short stories of grief + grace + hope.
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Adriel’s book on miscarriage:
Sharing Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infertility Stories to Help and Heal after Pregnancy Loss — Short, powerful stories from ten women on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, infertility, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.
Dear Pregnant Woman on the Playground (With Love from a Baby-Loss Mom) — Relating to other pregnant women while approaching your due date.
Dear Baby: Four Years Later — The notion of “getting over” grief.
Under the Olive Tree — Grief brings a wild array of emotions. In the case of my second, furious anger and guilt.
Why I Share About the Hard Stuff (and the Power of Story) — Shame, stigma, vulnerability, and healing.
The Promise of Easter and Meeting Our Babies Again — Despair and hope in light of the resurrection of Jesus.
Breaking the Silence: Mothers Sharing Stories about Miscarriage and Loss — Breaking the stigma, not because we’re brave but because we’re desperate and hopeful.
This Ground is Holy — The paradox of joy and sorrow.
Learning to Stay Afloat in the Waves of Grief — Coping with the unpredictable nature of grief.
He is With Us. Really. — Where grace abounds in deep waters.
Our Stupid Fish Died. And Our Baby Died, Too. — Relating to my living children after miscarriage.
Mother’s Day for Those Who Have Lost or Are Longing — Mother’s day for those who find it hard.
Memorializing Your Baby — Memorial ideas to remember your baby (coming soon)
Body Image after Miscarriage (coming soon)
Mental Health after Miscarriage and Loss (coming soon)
Creating a Care Package for a Friend After Miscarriage — Simple, thoughtful gift ideas to create your own care package and let your friend know you’re thinking of her.
Mothers Day for the Rest of Us (and How to Help a Mom who’s Hurting) — Simple and practical ideas for how to remember hurting moms at Mother’s Day.
What to Say (and Not Say) to Someone who’s Lost a Baby (coming soon)
Miscarriage and Pregnancy/Infant Loss Bereavement Cards (coming soon)
Men and Miscarriage Series: Stories from Bereaved Fathers (coming soon)
Why We Need Better Support for Men after Miscarriage by Catherine Rodie
How Miscarriage Affects a Marriage by Lindsey Bell
How My Marriage Changed After My Miscarriage by Jessica Zucker
Men and Miscarriage by Patrick Stafford
Grief Support for Dads (coming soon)
Sex and Intimacy after Miscarriage and Loss (coming soon)
Communication after Miscarriage and Loss (coming soon)
How Your Bedside Manner and Language Can Help a Hurting Parent After Miscarriage (coming soon)
Why I Believe in Early Pregnancy Announcements Despite the Risk (and Fear) of Miscarriage — Shame, fear, stigma, community, support, women’s issues… this post covers all of it.
Rainbow Baby — What is a “rainbow baby” and why it’s a broken metaphor (to me).
Sinking Deep: Thoughts on Pregnancy After Miscarriage — The emotional minefield of pregnancy after loss.
Infertility: What We Wished We’d Known About Childlessness
A Prayer for the Waiting Time by Emily P. Freeman
Don’t You Want Kids? | The Secret Burden of Infertility — A monthly grief.
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
Is God to Blame: Beyond Pat Answers to the Problem of Suffering by Gregory Boyd
Lord Willing: Wrestling with God’s Role in My Child’s Death by Jessica Kelley
A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser
Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey
I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy by Angie Smith
Please note: I share some differences of theology with a few of these books, particularly around the area of whether or not God “wills” or “allows” the death of our babies. That may not be an important issue to you, but it is to me. The best resource I can personally recommend on that topic is Lord Willing. I do, however, still recommend each of these wonderful books as a comfort to help normalize the pain and grief of pregnancy and baby loss, while fueling you with courage for your faith and healing journey. They will point you toward the love and kindness and hope of Jesus, which is the very most important thing.