Welcome, dear one.
You’ve landed on my page for miscarriage stories, pregnancy loss support, and a number of other resources to help you navigate grief and loss after miscarriage, stillbirth, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.
While I don’t know your story, I imagine you’re in search of encouragement or validation or companionship. I can tell you this with confidence: We do grieve, but not without hope.
This page is not static; it is growing and changing all the time and includes links to blog posts and resources written by me as well as those from other trusted sources. I hope it serves you well.
To connect with our pregnancy loss community, find us on instagram at @ourscarlettstories or our free membership community for pregnancy loss support, Our Scarlett Stories. (This just happens to be the most gracious and kind support group on the internet.)
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Tethered to Hope,
Adriel
Adriel’s book on miscarriage:
Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss
“Grief is wild like the sea, but it doesn’t need to destroy us. We can’t conquer it, but we can learn to navigate it. And we can find Jesus there too.” —Adriel Booker
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- Open when your period returns
- Open on your original due date
- Open when you’re invited to a baby shower
- Open on a holiday or special occasion
- Open on Mother’s Day
- Open on your baby’s birthday or anniversary
- Open during a post-miscarriage pregnancy
The whole series can be found here: Letters to a Grieving Mom: Mother’s Day after Miscarriage and Loss
The Day I Lost My Baby and Among the Fields of Gold: Losing My Baby in Italy and The Story of Scarlett Grace and Yes, Another Loss — My personal miscarriage stories.
How to Grieve with Hope — Club 31 Women
Dear Pregnant Woman on the Playground (With Love from a Baby-Loss Mom) — Relating to other pregnant women while approaching your due date.
Dear Baby: Four Years Later — Addressing the notion of “getting over” grief.
Under the Olive Tree — Grief brings a wild array of emotions. In the case of my second, furious anger and guilt.
How Grief Led Me to Love — People often ask what is the biggest “lesson learned” after miscarriage; I tell them this instead.
Why I Share About the Hard Stuff (and the Power of Story) — Shame, stigma, vulnerability, and healing.
The Promise of Easter and Meeting Our Babies Again — Despair and hope in light of the resurrection of Jesus.
Our Stupid Fish Died. And Our Baby Died, Too. — Relating to my living children after miscarriage.
Mother’s Day for Those Who Have Lost or Are Longing — Mother’s day for those who find it hard.
Remembering Your Baby after Miscarriage — Memorial ideas for honoring your baby’s life after pregnancy loss.
No, I’m Not ‘Lucky’ Because I Had a Miscarriage at 6 Weeks — by Julia Dellitt
Confronting the Lie: God Won’t Give You More Than You Can Handle — Nate Pyle
Avoiding the Comparison Trap after Miscarriage and Loss —Focus on the Family
Letters to a Grieving Mom: Mother’s Day after Miscarriage and Loss — A series to help you navigate milestone days after miscarriage
Sharing Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infertility Stories to Help and Heal after Pregnancy Loss — Short, powerful stories from ten women on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, infertility, and other forms of pregnancy and infant loss.
Letters to a Grieving Mom: Open when you get your period after miscarriage
Body Image after Miscarriage (coming soon)
Miscarriage FAQs, Symptoms of Miscarriage, Terminology Explained, Types of Miscarriage, (Tommy’s National Miscarriage Centre)
15 Things that will Happen to your Body after a Miscarriage
Mental Health after Miscarriage and Loss — Imperial College of London
How to Help a Friend after Miscarriage or Stillbirth — What to say (and not say) after miscarriage and how to be a practical help and support and encouragement to your grieving friend.
What to Give Someone on Mother’s Day after Miscarriage — Need a compassionate gift idea? We’ve got you covered.
Creating a Care Package for a Friend After Miscarriage — Simple, thoughtful gift ideas to create your own care package and let your friend know you’re thinking of her.
Mothers Day for the Rest of Us (and How to Help a Mom who’s Hurting) — Simple and practical ideas for how to remember hurting moms at Mother’s Day.
What to Not to Say to Someone Who’s Lost a Baby (And What You Can Say Instead)
Supporting the Man You Love through Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Grief
How to Keep Your Marriage from Crumbling after Miscarriage – Relevant Magazine
Four Ways to Support Fathers after Miscarriage – Crosswalk
Men & Miscarriage Series: An exploration of how miscarriage and pregnancy loss impacts men
- He Said, She Said: Couples Talk about Miscarriage and Marriage
- Do Men and Women Grieve Differently after Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss?
- How to Love and Support Your Husband after Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Grief
- Marriage, Sex, and Intimacy after Miscarriage
- Lima Beans and Hope in the Freezer Aisle: A Grandfather’s Story of Miscarriage by Kevin Lotz
- From Man to Man after Miscarriage: Honest Talk about Marriage and Loss by Trevor Bowen
Dying in the Womb of Triune Love: Mothers, Fathers, & The Faceless Pain of Miscarriages by Jeremy Spainhour
Why We Need Better Support for Men after Miscarriage by Catherine Rodie
How Miscarriage Affects a Marriage by Lindsey Bell
How My Marriage Changed After My Miscarriage by Jessica Zucker
Men and Miscarriage by Patrick Stafford
Helping Children Cope with Grief
Note: Grace Like Scarlett has a section specifically on how to help a child through grief after miscarriage, including how to talk to them about your loss.
Children’s Picture Books on Grief and Loss (coming soon)
Resource List for Pastoral Care after Miscarriage (bookmark this reference page)
What Parents Need Most from Their Pastors after Miscarriage – Christianity Today Pastors
Letters to a Grieving Mom: Open when You’re Pregnant after Miscarriage
Why I Believe in Early Pregnancy Announcements Despite the Risk (and Fear) of Miscarriage — Shame, fear, stigma, community, support, women’s issues… this post covers all of it.
Rainbow Baby — What is a “rainbow baby” and why it’s a broken metaphor (to me).
Sinking Deep: Thoughts on Pregnancy After Miscarriage — The emotional minefield of pregnancy after loss.
The Disgrace of Infertility by Nate Pyle
What We Wished We’d Known About Childlessness
A Prayer for the Waiting Time by Emily P. Freeman
Don’t You Want Kids? | The Secret Burden of Infertility — A monthly grief.
The Spectacle of Heaven (Is that it’s Birthed in Low Places) – Featured on Ann Voskamp
Why Have You Forsaken Me? – A devotional for when your heart is broken
Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss – A free 7-day YouVersion devotional
When Jesus is Sleeping Through the Storm – Have you ever felt like Jesus was sleeping through your hardest “storm”?
The Ministry of Presence (coming soon)
How to Grieve with Hope – Featured on Club 31 Women
Playlist of Songs for Grief & Hope (coming soon)
Scriptures for Study and Meditation on Grief & Hope (coming soon)
Is it Ok to be Mad at God after Miscarriage? – Featured on the Christian Post
Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss by Adriel Booker
Every Bitter Thing is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things by Sara Hagerty
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
Is God to Blame: Beyond Pat Answers to the Problem of Suffering by Gregory Boyd
Lord Willing: Wrestling with God’s Role in My Child’s Death by Jessica Kelley
A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser
Where is God When it Hurts? by Philip Yancey
Empty Arms: Hope and Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Tubal Pregnancy by Pam Vredevelt
I Will Carry You: The Sacred Dance of Grief and Joy by Angie Smith
Grieving the Child I Never Knew: A Devotional Companion for Comfort in the Loss of Your Unborn or Newly Born Child by Katie Wunnenburg
Loved Baby: 31 Devotionals Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child after Pregnancy Loss by Sarah Philpott
Please note: I share some differences of theology with a few of these books, particularly around the area of whether or not God “wills” or “allows” the death of our babies. I do, however, still recommend each of these wonderful books as a comfort to help normalize the pain and grief of pregnancy and baby loss, while fueling you with courage for your faith and healing journey. They will point you toward the love and kindness and hope of Jesus, which is the very most important thing.
On dealing with shame: The Beast of Shame by Sandra Unger (or watch video)
Mourning Into Joy newsletter by Sharon McKeeman
@ourscarlettstories on instagram:
Our Scarlett Stories: Giving voice and dignity to our grief, our babies, and our motherhood experience.
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