I’m so thankful to have been interviewed by Maggie Johns at 100 Huntley Street. I hope our conversation will nurture hope in many families who sit in the shadow of loss. We do grieve… but not without hope.
Here’s a snippet of the interview:
Maggie: What is some advice you can give loved ones as they journey with someone through miscarriage?
Adriel: The “ministry of presence”—being with someone. The whole gospel story is about Jesus coming and moving into the middle of our mess—not running from it or being intimidated by it or trying putting a pat answer on it. But he just came to be with us. As believers that’s what we can do for others—we come and say “I want to hold space for your pain, I’m not going to run away from it. I want to be with you in that.” …And then practical things. I like to tell people that having a miscarriage is like giving birth and grieving a death all at once, and so the same things you would do for a new mom… you care for her tenderly and treat her as if she’s postpartum, but also just lost someone very dear. You bring the flowers. You bring the casserole. You show up.
Watch the full interview here:
ADRIEL’S BOOK ON MISCARRIAGE:
FREE DEVOTIONAL FOR YOU:
How to Grieve with Hope Devotional—A free 7-day devotional on YouVersion Bible app based on Grace Like Scarlett
Miscarriage Stories and Resource page
How to Support a Friend after Miscarriage and Loss
What Not to Say to a Friend after Miscarriage (And What to Say Instead)
Men & Miscarriage Series including articles such as: Do Men and Women Grieve Differently?; How to Support the Man You Love after Miscarriage; and Marriage, Sex, and Intimacy after Miscarriage.
Book: Grace Like Scarlett: Grieving with Hope after Miscarriage and Loss by Adriel Booker
Courtney17 July 2018 at 11:22 am
I just learned last Monday our sweet baby no longer has a heartbeat. This would be my 3rd child. Shocked and devastated are right. I’ve had 2 healthy pregnancies. This was so unexpected. Thank you for sharing this 💙 I have felt so lost this last week and and so scared for what’s to come. Everyday just waiting for the grieving to start all over.
Adriel Booker18 July 2018 at 10:40 am
Oh Courtney, I’m so sorry to hear that. There is no easy way around this pain but to head straight in and find Jesus there. I pray you will feel him close. I’ve written a free 7 day devotional that I hope can help you as you start to process your grief and emotions: http://adrielbooker.com/grieving-hope-devotional-after-miscarriage-loss/ Hope this will be a comfort to you. Grace to you, sister. x
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Courtney18 July 2018 at 12:00 pm
Thank you I will definitely look at it. 💙 I am learning today what I’m going through is a missed miscarriage where my body hasn’t quite recognized the loss yet.
Adriel Booker18 July 2018 at 1:36 pm
I’m so sorry Courtney.
Jenni Burke18 July 2018 at 2:26 am
Wow, incredible interview. Love you!
Adriel Booker18 July 2018 at 10:37 am
Thank you Jenni!
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